The End is Nigh?

I haven’t blogged in a while. I haven’t written a post for two weeks or posted one for a week. The world didn’t notice and kept on going, like I knew it would.

It has been peaceful not worrying about blog views or social media likes. I think I could get used to this!

But I enjoy sharing my passion for reading Fantasy books. I like trying to help spread the word when I find something awesome! It brings me some joy to share!

It is also frustrating. When no one else seems to share that enthusiasm. When your social media post are dormant with little action. Blog views and interaction are low. What did I do wrong? Where did I go wrong? At one time things seemed to be headed in such a fantastic direction just to fall flat on its face.

I put so much hard work into this blog with little repayment of my time and effort. It used to be fulfilling when at least it seemed like people appreciated what I was doing.

I thought I had struck up many new friendships with authors, publishers, fellow bloggers and enthusiast. Just to learn that friendship ends when you have outlived their need for you, when bigger and better “friends” come along.Β 

Even my calls for promotional post, Guest blogs, guest reviews, collaborations ect. are met with little reaction. Β That’s right I can’t even get anyone to promote themselves for nothing anymore.

I have to assume it’s me at this point? Something I have done or said, or my reputation? I am at a loss. If someone knows maybe they can fill me in?

Maybe I need to interact more? I try my best. My social anxiety is so bad I can’t even come across in social media like I want or at least not awkward. Social Media sucks anymore anyway. Can’t we all go back to sharing cool stuff we like instead of bullshit we don’t like?

I should be amazed I ever posted a blog post in the first place.

Why did I start blogging? Therapy, is the only answer I can come up with. Reading keeps my mind busy, keeps the darkness away. If my mind is busy the battle is easier.

 

 

5ba

 

 

Blogging and sharing about my reading helps a great deal as well, but it also presents its own demons that must be battled.

So where is all of this going you might ask? I don’t know, I just needed to rant! I posted awhile back about needing to enjoy myself blogging again, and that has not really happened. I am still to caught up on people liking, sharing and blog views, and all that. So I don’t know what to do. Quit the blog and find new ways to fight the darkness? Stop worrying about having a blog following? Like that will happen. Stop finding my self worth in whether people check out my blog? That’s tough, a lot of my self is in this blog. People don’t like my blog, they don’t like me.

Well one thing is for sure, I will keep reading! I must stay sane and all!

I think I will just go about my business, with Mighty Thor JRS blog. I will no longer tie my self worth to it. It is mine and I will do what I want. I love and enjoy this blog even if no one else does. I need this, for me! If others want to come along for the ride you are more than welcome! I appreciate all of those who actually come by and follow my blog! Thank You!

I think I ranted on everything I wanted to.

Please remember, Never think someone who wants something from you is a friend! Even more so if they have written a book!

Thanks again,

James

 

43 thoughts on “The End is Nigh?

  1. Guest blogs/posts are a hard one as lots of bloggers don’t like to share their own stuff and post it on other bloggers sites. I think a lot of the time that people struggle to know what to write for posts, or at least I do and have a hard time trying to come up with content that isn’t reviews or memes for my own blog.πŸ˜‚ I’ve had on my review policy since I started in March last year that I’m happy to have any bloggers on my blog, not had one response ever, so you’re not the one.

    I think we all need to rant at times, it helps to get out what you’re feeling.

    I suck at blogging interaction, etc, I always have done as I find it really hard and agree with you that social media sucks at the moment. I’m really tired of the negative sh#t that’s about and all the ragging on fantasy and grimdark just because some Y-A fan took offence to something where none was meant.

    For what it’s worth I enjoy your blog (my interaction sucks as I mentioned) but you’re similar to me in how you review, your thoughts and feelings and no spoilers or elaborate essays on a book which is really refreshing.

    Totally get what you mean about friends and out living their need and it f#cking hurts. I thought I’d developed a really good friendship with a blogger, yet, I was wrong and kicked to the side.

    I think as you say just blog for yourself and try to enjoy it.

    Liked by 2 people

  2. Your post is great and I read and appreciate it! I think you just pass a bitter time. Dont be so tough with yourself, enjoy reading for a while or do something nice! I have the same problem, but, at the end, so what if nobody cares?! I have a lot of fun writtin on my blog, and I am happy if I have a visit per day! Good luck!

    Liked by 1 person

  3. Anindita@A Bohemian Mind at Work

    Hey, James.

    I love your blog. I always check a few blogs when I finish a book and write a review. One of them is you. As Drew said, you two are similar and precise which is indeed refreshing. I struggle with too many thoughts flooding out into the keyboard. Wish I was as to the point as you people.

    I am sorry that you feel hurt. I am sad that people are overlooking what an incredible opportunity you are providing them. Whenever I see your call for guest posts, I think that there is this SPFBO going on now and at least 50% out of the 300 authors (assuming most others have already posted as guests) would have approached you. You give a chance to everybody. You are unbiased with your guests as much as your reviews. I never thought that you of all people wouldn’t have received enough response.

    Maybe the authors are too new to gather enough courage, or they have missed the notifications since all are not in same groups. Tweets get flooded by more tweets. Visibility is an issue.

    I hope you find the right match with guests and get enough posts soon. Do you know, how many times have I wanted to take this opportunity to send you something but couldn’t as I hardly make enough content for my own blog? I will try once my situation is a little stabilized.

    Please don’t feel sad thinking you don’t have friends. You do. They are just a little late in responding to you. If you feel this way, how is it for me, someone who is still crawling around trying to get the hang of this new world. Mingling with people is scary. I break my shell often and then run for some glue. I blog to keep my sanity. Blogging brought me out of my lowest of the low. As you say, it’s therapeutic.

    So we can consider this a group therapy and help each other out of the lonely world that is this blogosphere. I will request any author who is near launch to do cover reveals, interviews, and stuff, to approach you. I don’t see you do much self-promotion and I like to promote people so I will try to do my part. See, you have three friends who are back already. πŸ˜‰

    Liked by 1 person

    1. Thank You! I very much appreciate your support! I know I have some friends out there and I value them and their support! I have just been so frustrated lately. You think people are cool then realize they just needed your help. Not cool! Thanks again Anindita!

      Liked by 1 person

      1. Anindita@A Bohemian Mind at Work

        No. It’s not cool. But virtual friends are not real. Make this your mantra. And swing that mighty hammer sometimes to show people you are not to be used and left alone. We must respect each other’s feelings. No compromise there.

        Liked by 2 people

  4. They way I see it, writing my blog is talking to myself. Commenting on other blogs is talking to other people. I don’t ever expect comments. I don’t expect people to follow my blog–a lot of accounts are listed as following mine, but about half are dead accounts and about half of the rest are accounts that are selling something and follow everyone in the hopes of being followed back to boost their numbers. Writing a blog post in the hopes of generating comments is like sitting in the corner at a party and waiting for someone to come up and notice how gosh darn cute you are. If you want engagement, you have to go out and talk to other people. Sometimes months go by without me writing a post–I just don’t have anything to say. But I stay active reading and commenting on other blogs.

    Liked by 1 person

    1. Thank You! I need to remember to do it for me and not get wrapped up in all the numbers. Hard sometimes to remember that. I will just do it for me. I just read one of your stories in Cirsova, great work! Will seek out some more of your work. Thanks again!

      Like

  5. Solidarity, my friend. Do it for you. Read what YOU want, when YOU want. I recently had a guy email and give me a hard time because I didn’t like a Stephen King endorsed short story collection. He ranted and raved how he thought my reviews were rubbish. Y’know, I don’t care. I do this for me, for similar reasons as yourself. There are a lot of good people out there, sometimes you got to sift through a lot of trash to find them. I dig your blog and your style. It’s unique. That’s why I follow.

    Liked by 2 people

    1. Thanks! I do value your opinion and support! Love your blog. I have just come across some bad apples of late and have left a bad taste in my mouth. I love to help authors out but don’t pretend to be a friend just because you need something from me. Thanks again!

      Like

  6. Oh no – I feel terrible! I love your blog and feel sad that you feel like this. To be honest, I think we all experience these feelings from time to time. I know I do and it’s definitely a fine balancing act with your home/work/blogging life – sometimes other things just take over and then you get behind and feel pressured.
    In fairness I suck at guest posts and interviews which is pretty much why I stick to reviews and memes and at the moment I’m having a go at completely cutting back my review books – well, at least trying to find a happy split so that I can read some of my own books. I would do a guest post but it would be terrible – I just don’t have that many ideas for that type of post.
    I tend to think of your blogs as one of the ‘big’ out there blogs tbh. Mine, well, it’s tiny and perhaps I’ll just keep it that way, less hassle.
    Keep your chin up and just enjoy your blog, and do what feels right for you. .
    Lynn πŸ˜€

    Liked by 2 people

    1. Thanks Lynn! You have always been very supportive and I appreciate you and your blog. Going though some frustrating times lately and some people out there have made it not so fun to blog. I will go back to enjoying myself and all will be well. Thanks again!

      Like

  7. I’m an author in SPFBO 3 not a blogger, but I’m prepared to give it a try if you want a guest blog. I have an idea I want to put down about luck and what writers/authors perceptions are on it. It would also contain some elements of friendship or perceived friendship.
    Truth is I don’t even know how long such a post should even be.
    Let me know what you think and if it’s worth following up.

    Liked by 1 person

  8. Sorry your feeling this way, brother. Like all the other poster, I always enjoy your posts and have wondered about your lack of activity recently, but I assumed it was summer and you were taking a much deserved break. My only advice is to read and review what you enjoy. Those who appreciate it will come and interact with you. And never forget your fellow blogging friends have your back — even if it just vent about our blog issues. πŸ™‚

    Liked by 2 people

  9. Hey James, sorry to hear this. As Lynn says, it is common for bloggers to go through difficult times – I have been for quite a while now! However, I will approach you later this year as part of my next blog tour (and Drew as well, among others). Hang in there.

    Liked by 1 person

  10. Maybe there’s something going around, because you have echoed my own thoughts about blogging, believe it or not. I’m going through my own identity crisis, although I haven’t talked much about it. But you aren’t alone. I stress over all those things you aren’t supposed to: how many “likes” and comments I get on each post, my (dwindling) stats, lack of interest in posts. The problem with blogging is it’s supposed to be a social activity, and boy, does it take hard work and dedication to stay social! I feel like you need to spend at least two hours a day visiting other blogs and leaving comments, commenting back on the comments you get, Twitter and Facebook, and if you aren’t consistent with those things, then people seem to forget about you.

    When you only have a limited amount of time to blog each week – and when I say “blog” I mean: reading books, writing reviews, setting up blog posts, keeping your blog maintained, comments, etc.) it’s hard to squeeze any more time into being social and keeping people coming to your blog.

    BUT I hope you decide to stick around! You have a fantastic blog, and you should be proud of all the work you do. Your loyal followers (like me) will always be around. I may not comment all the time, but I do read every post you write (obviously I suck at being social myself!) and I’m sure there are others like me.

    Hang in there!

    Liked by 2 people

    1. Thanks Tammy! Yes it is a mountain of work and with no real reward except the satisfaction of enjoying what you do. When you stop enjoying it, it is no longer worth it. I am struggling lately but I will get over it. I still deep down enjoy doing this. I just have to do it for myself. Thanks again for all of your support!

      Liked by 1 person

  11. Sorry to hear about your troubles! In the end, only you can decide what you get out of blogging. Always look after yourself first, because it won’t do you any good to force yourself to do something you don’t want to! Try not to stress too much about the social aspect, if that’s what’s causing you the most anxiety. I know plenty of bloggers who blog solely for themselves because that’s what brings them joy and satisfaction, and sometimes that’s enough. When you write from the heart and write a lot of good content, a readership will eventually come along with that. It might take some time, but don’t force it, or it will just make you feel more frustrated. That’s what I’ve found anyway, I used to stress a lot about my blog too, but the moment I let things go, it became a lot easier and enjoyable again. I wish you luck with everything!

    Liked by 1 person

  12. Oden

    Sorry to hear this, James 😦 Me, I enjoy your reviews. They’re clear, direct, and cut right to the chase. And your guest posts are always fascinating (I need to do another, but time and family and my own depression makes it hard for me to muster enough ‘meh’ to blog at my own site). Do the things you love, my friend, and to hell with the rest! Whatever you decide to write about, I’ll be out here reading it πŸ˜‰

    Liked by 1 person

    1. Thank You! Appreciate the kind words and support! You are welcome on the blog anytime and let me know if you need help with anything for the release coming up! I think I am heading in a better direction and am excited for things to come. Thanks again!

      Like

  13. Hi Thor/James,
    I just now found your blog through a search engine. Sorry to hear the disappointment in your post here. For what it’s worth, I feel the same way with my blog sometimes. I usually get ZERO interaction from anyone. But I mostly continue with it because it’s a place to get my thoughts out or share some information.
    Anyway, I’m an author with a new release coming this month and I’d be interested in any guest post, review, etc. that you might have open. I’m going to send you an email with the book info.
    Just remember, to those who take you for granted…they are not worthy!

    Liked by 1 person

  14. I feel your pain. I try to remember that my blog is just for me, but have been having a hard time with that. Then a good writing peep kicked my arse so I set myself a weekly challenge and I’m going to try not to pay attention to the fact I’ve got, like, maybe 4 readers!! πŸ˜‰

    For me, personally, I don’t guest blog because I mostly feel unworthy, or that I don’t have anything worth reading. Blogging is a tough gig. I don’t know how some folks excel at it, and others struggle.

    For what it’s worth, I always read your blog, though I suck at interacting. Sorry about that.

    Liked by 1 person

  15. Pingback: Writing Links 6/12/17 – Where Genres Collide

  16. Even though I rarely comment, I almost always read your posts! I’m really made at the social part, which is what stats are built on. Thank you for sharing your thoughts and frustrations πŸ™‚

    Like

  17. I’m so sorry that you’re feeling despondent about blogging but – as others have said before me – this might very well be just “one of those moments” everyone has to go through now and then. IMHO the best feature of book blogging is the discovery of new books we might never have found on our own, and the possibility of discussing them with like-minded people.
    Maybe the key is in enjoying what we’re doing, and let the rest take care of itself: as that movie quote said “Never give up! Never surrender!” πŸ™‚
    Hang in there, because you are not alone in this virtual community….

    Liked by 1 person

  18. Pingback: Week in Review: 6/17/17 – Mighty Thor JRS – Fantasy Book News & Reviews

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out /  Change )

Google+ photo

You are commenting using your Google+ account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

w

Connecting to %s